Rebecca Perlman Coniglio earned her BA in Psychology from Boston University in 1997 and then went on to earn her Master’s Degree in Social Work from The Columbia University School of Social Work in 1999. Rebecca has worked on Child Study Teams in several school districts in New Jersey and as an elementary guidance counselor. Currently, she is a licensed clinical social worker in private practice, specializing in children and adolescents. Rebecca recently became an author when her new children’s book series, Lily’s Little Life Lessons was released in September 2011.
Q. What is the most important message you try to convey to teens / kids going thru divorce?
A. The most important message I try to convey to teens or children experiencing their parents’ divorce is that they are not alone. There are other people out there who can relate to what they are going through and who can help them cope with their situation. Every family is unique and therefore every divorce has its own set of circumstances, but with time, communication, and a lot of love and laughter you will come out on the other side.
Q. How has divorce impacted your life personally?
A. My parents separated when I was ten years old and were divorced when I was twelve. I feel that divorce has touched my life in more ways than I can say here, but what I can say is that as I have grown up, I am grateful for all that my parents have done for me. My childhood may not have been exactly the way I would have wanted, but it has all contributed to who I am today. Being a child of divorce has made me committed to being the best daughter, wife, mother, and counselor that I can be. I feel lucky to have the experience and education to help others navigate the world of divorce.
Q. What are your thoughts regarding how lifethrudivorce.com can help families and children deal with the journey thru divorce?
A. I feel honored to be a small part of lifethrudivorce.com. I believe that having a community of people who are all in some way touched by divorce can help members with each step of their journey. Teens especially can find comfort in knowing that they are not the only ones feeling a certain way. They can find helpful strategies and resources to make their path easier. That is a gift. No one wants to feel alone, unheard, or different.
Q. What inspired you to get involved in helping teen / families understand and deal with divorce related issues?
A. I have always enjoyed working with children. They are innocent yet wise. Young people are honest, brave, open, and appreciate having someone who will listen to them. In terms of helping children deal with divorce, I am sure going through it as a child inspired me to want to help others.
Q. What have you found to be the most difficult thing emotionally for kids to deal with realtive to Divorce?
A. I think the hardest part of dealing with divorce for children is understanding why it had to happen in the first place. Divorce is a very grown up concept and it can be challenging for younger people to comprehend. That is why they benefit from explanations and reassurance that they will be ok. I also think that children tend to miss the noncustodial parent, but may struggle with guilt and loyalty issues. Kids love their parents and want to feel that their parents love them.